GOALS: DECEMBER 2018

It’s December. Finding it a little hard to believe another year is gone. Thankful for the lessons learned and the feelings felt. Here is what is on the docket for December. monthly goals.png

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TIPS FOR SIMPLE LIVING

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It’s holiday season and that can either be a real joy for some of us or the most stressful time of the year. There was a time in my life when I tried to squeeze in as much as I could in my day because I thought that was the only way to be productive. Fast forward a few years and a couple of anxiety attacks and I can proudly say I no longer think that way. I’m now living at a slower pace and making thoughtful decisions – which makes my life more enjoyable. Here are a few tips I’ve found have worked as I’ve tried to simplify the noise around me:

Select the top 4 – 5 things that are most important to you and commit your time to them.

Simplify your wardrobe. It’s possible and so liberating. You know exactly what’s available to wear, everything can be mixed and matched, oh! and laundry is a breeze.

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Say no. Period.

Turn off notifications. We check our phones out of habit – almost like its a nervous tick. I’ve found turning off notifications has forced me to check my phone at a time that works for me rather than as they come in. Real talk, Do Not Disturb is my favorite. I realize that may not work for people who have more responsibilities than mean (aka children).

Own less. This is a similar concept to limiting your wardrobe to what you need and makes you feel good. Too many things can sometimes feel like a burden or responsibility. Why not just invest in some quality pieces and a few nice to have that make you happy and keeps your space neat and clutter free? I find purging every 6 months helps keep me in check.

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8 THINGS TO WIGGLE YOURSELF OUT OF A RUT

Most of us have been at a point in life where things aren’t flowing quite right. Some of us can move past it quickly while others can feel pretty stuck for a lot longer than they hoped. It’s not that you don’t want to get out of your rut… it just seems hard to know where to start. I recently hit a wall. And, well, it’s taken a lot of supportive, patient people and a lot of trial and error to dig my way out. Below are a few things I’ve found have helped me.

Admit it.
The first step is, to be honest with yourself. It’s ok that you’re not in a good place. You’ll get out of it. However, that takes admitting that this is where you are right now. photo-1527236438218-d82077ae1f85

Stop complaining.
Got it. Life sucks and you’re not happy with how things are playing out. Complaining hardly ever changes the situation or the facts. Before you use precious oxygen to explain how sucky the situation is for the 12x, pause and ask yourself if this will help anything. If you’re feeling extra bold, acknowledge something you’re thankful for or something that is going right in life. It’s all about perspective. Tim Lahan for KENZO

Journal.
I love journaling. I by no means consider myself a writer but I do find the act of pen-to-paper makes me feel better and more connected to my emotions. If you’re not into writing, try an art journal. Sometimes capturing a painting, sketch, or doodle of what is on your mind helps a bunch.photo-1526280760714-f9e8b26f318f.jpeg

Dial up the self-care & self-love.
Be kind to yourself physically AND emotionally. Yes, do the face mask and draw yourself a hot bath. But also tell yourself you’re smart and beautiful and strong. The mind is a powerful thing. Controlling your thoughts, especially when you’re feeling stuck can be a real game changer.

Put something on the calendar.
One of the hardest things to do when you’re in a rut is to be motivated to do anything – no matter how big or small. I have found that looking forward to something can help get you motivated and moving. Schedule coffee with a dear friend, book a weekend trip, or a day at the spa. Whatever it may be,  putting it on the calendar gives you a bright spot in the week. Also, it gives you plenty of time to mentally prepare yourself. (;cup and saucer on table

Practice gratitude.
That’s right. In a moment when you feel you have nothing to be thankful for I’m encouraging you to do just that BE THANKFUL. There is something so humbling about this process. I think it’s because everything inside you wants to do the complete opposite. You want permission to be angry and frustrated. But, if you want freedom and want to wiggle yourself out of this cloudy season, a thankful heart will help move you in the right direction. Find the beauty around you and be thankful that it exists.gold pen on top of Today I Am Grateful book

Go outside and let nature feed your soul.
Since I was young, the moments I have felt the most relaxed are when I am in nature. I don’t know what it is but there is something about being in it that makes me feel safe, small (in a good way), and at peace. So, when times are rough, take in the green. Breathe deeply. Listen to the birds. Touch trees. You get the gist.selective focus photography of lake

Make a list.
For those who make lists about everything, this will come naturally to you. For those who don’t, give it a try. On a crappy day, make a list of the things you liked about your day. If you’re feeling blue, make a list of dream vacation spots. Really just make a list of everything and anything.person writing on a book

Pray.
There is power in prayer. There is power in getting spiritually oriented. I don’t think this should be treated as a last resort. In fact, I’d probably say this is one of the most important elements to get you out of a rut. Spiritual health is connected to energy. So what we’re putting in is definitely what we’re putting out.
9But his answer was: “My grace is all you need, for my power is greatest when you are weak.” I am most happy, then, to be proud of my weaknesses, in order to feel the protection of Christ’s power over me.  – 2 Corinthians 12:9Holy Bible

I’ll end on this note: for those who are fighting – keep fighting. Your moment will come. Your joy will return. Your life really is beautiful even if it’s not going as planned. You do have purpose and life matters. Every little moment matters. So, take heart.

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